There {day two}
>> Thursday, February 2, 2012 –
29 Days of Quiet,
community,
friendship
Maybe she heard the crazy in my voice. Or the twinge of despair. Or maybe it was when I mentioned to her on the phone that I'd cried while running on the treadmill that morning (And crying while running on the treadmill is definitive red flag behavior, isn't it?). Whatever the reason, and despite all the work she had to get done, and all the deadlines she had to meet that day, Deidra insisted that I hang out with her at Bagels and Joe where she'd stationed herself for the afternoon. "Bring your laptop," she urged. "We'll just sit here and get our work done together."
So I did.
We sat across from one another at the table by the window, my laptop backed up to hers. And every now and then we'd peek over our screens and chat a bit, and then we’d go back to typing.
I ate turkey, lettuce and tomato with chipotle mayo on an asiago bagel (I'd sworn off bagels just two days before, after I'd watched The Last 10 Pounds Bootcamp, but who cares, because even though I'd cried on the treadmill, I was running while crying, so that counts for something, right?), and she had roasted red pepper soup and salad. We laughed and chatted while we ate, and then we went back to more typing.
Deidra saved me last Friday. She reached out, grabbed my sinking hand and quietly pulled me right back into living again. And she did it simply by being there.
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If I lived close I would have loved to have done that for you. Yay for Deidra.
I know of someone who needs something... I just don't know exactly what. Maybe a step out in faith just to spend time with her is in order.
Oh, Michelle...I think I need to be quiet and reach out to myself today! Thank you for sharing this time. It might be just what I need to get over a very big hump. HE used you in a BIG way today!
Still praying for you.
I think it's so nice when your bloggy friends can be your real-life friends, too. Lately, I fear I'm wearing my friends out.
Living is exactly what God is calling us to do. Beyond our trials, beyond our pain, and beyond our fears, He wants us to experience life abundantly. Keep on living, Michelle.
That's what friends are for....bless her for being there for you. Sometimes I think a good cry is needed to be able to re focus. Wishing you a great day full of love n sunshine...Janice
Sounds like you have one amazing friend! God is good!
What a great friend! You are very blessed to have her!
Deidra saved me a couple of weeks ago, when she called on a Sunday afternoon. That woman has been extra busy lately!
P.S. Crying on the treadmill--been there. done that.
Wow, what a Super Friend! And what a creative idea she had--getting together but working, nevertheless. That's terrific. I will long remember her idea, her kindness, and your blog post.
God bless you both!
Linda
Beautiful friendships make every weight we carry somehow no heavier than a feather on the wind.
Beautiful! I love friendships like that.
Jennifer has been that hand for me this week. God shows up in the most amazing ways.
I have a sweet friend like that too Michelle. Deidra is precious. Her heart is so very dear.
Thank you again for this series. I am not sure what is going on in my heart these days. I don't seem to have any words - just content to be quiet for a while to see where it will lead.
I love simply being alongside someone when I'm having a wobble.
It's so important to notice friends in need and also good (but hard) to let ourselves ask for help.
so fun that you have a friend like that.
I think Curious George is saving me RIGHT THIS MINUTE...does that count? I've quit parenting. I am letting Curious George on PBS do it.
What a gift we can give each other: we don't need all the answers or to fix everything for a friend - most of the time just our presence and our listening is enough. Doesn't the treadmill get slippery when crying and running?
And that is the definition of community! LOVE it!
I needed you that day, too. We save each other. I think God knew it would be best that way. I love the way He made us...so that we need each other.
Yes. Someone did that for me once when I was falling deep into the black pit of PND. I didn't know it then, but she did. She sensed it coming. It was probably written all over my face as I held my gorgeous little baby. You know, I totally agree with the spirit of your post. We take just being there for granted. Hearts break with no one hearing them. Tears just keep coming. The pressure keeps building. Bt when someone chooses to pick up that phone, send that email, drop in unannounced....kindness is seldomrejectedand often makes a whole lot of difference.
Thanks for the post. Praise the Lord for friends who know when to be there. Just there.
I really love that you two got together. Sometimes what is really important in life surfaces in moments of pain and this shows that relationship is the foundation to everything else. Practicing the sacrament of presence - so powerful.