Hear It on Sunday, Use It on Monday: Not Any Old Love
>> Sunday, June 19, 2011 –
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Use It on Monday
When I was a kid, I vacillated between being afraid of God and deeply respectful of him – or sometimes a combination of both. The God of my childhood was a distant God – authoritative, all-knowing, powerful and wise. I was taught to respect him, to pray to him and to ask him for forgiveness when I sinned. We had a formal relationship, God and I. I approached God like I might approach Queen Elizabeth: politely, respectfully, a little fearfully and with awe.
Deep down inside, I knew God loved people, but I thought of his love more generally, a protecting “because I know what’s good for you” kind of love love. I figured God loved the human population, but I never considered the fact that he might love me, personally, as an individual.
Honestly, this idea of a personal God-love might just be beginning to sink in now, five years after my return to faith. I suspect I spent the last five years concentrating on comprehending God’s grace and coming to terms with the fact that I shouldn’t, and couldn’t, try to earn his favor. I might have even kept the thought of his love for me at arm’s length. That idea may have been a little too big for me.
It may still be.
Still, there’s no escaping God’s individual, personal, just-for-me kind of love, is there? If you read the Bible, references to that kind of love are everywhere. And that’s what I thought about when I heard today’s reading, from Romans 5:1-8, and particularly this verse:
“For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.” (Romans 5:5).
Notice the word “dearly.” Not simply that God loves us, but that he dearly loves us. Not just that he loves me, but that he dearly loves me. Not simply with kindly benevolence, like a ruler “loves” his people. Not just from afar, with distant affection. But like a parent loves his child, up close, personally and deeply.
I was curious about the use of the descriptor “dearly” in this verse, so I went over to Bible Gateway to read some of the other translations. Out of the ten or so I read [and for the record, I’m glad I use the NIV and not the Douay-Rheims 1899 American Edition, thank you very much], not one used the adverb “dearly.” Ordinarily this would have prompted me to assume there had been some unnecessary editorializing by the translator, but this time, I was okay with it. Quite honestly, that one little word breathes new understanding into the concept of God’s love. “Dearly” makes it feel personal.
So God loves me, maybe even the way I love Noah and Rowan – deeply, forever, with all of my being. And it just may take another five years to wrap my mind around that.
What about you? How do you interpret God's love for you?
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When I was young I thought of God as the judge, or distant older man with long white beard. Now He is companion, friend, savior, guide and so much more. I too like bible gateway to compare difference verses. Gives some good insight to my spiritual walk too.
I'm with you. I grew up with a very formal God and when people talked about God "the father" I could not relate because my dad was not around growing up. But my views of God changed when I had children. His love makes more sense to me now when I compare it to the way I love my children and I interact with them. And He loves me infinitely more than I understand.
Lately I've been experiencing God's love through my husband. As a five-year-young married couple (one flesh), I'm still in that transition between remembering what it used to be like to be just me and Jesus and experiencing what it's like to be us and Jesus. These past few weeks have been really sweet, feeling God both through the man He chose for me and beside the man He chose for me.
I grew up as a child with much the same view of God the Father as you describe. I didn't have a clue about the Holy Spirit, and when I came to Jesus, I wanted to know him, to understand him, but I had trouble accomplishing that. Only lately have I been spending time trying to grasp what it means to have Jesus as my friend.
3 verses later in Rom. 5:"God demonstrates His own love for us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." It's so hard to comprehend that: it would be like your being willing to have one of your boys killed, in order to achieve a relationship with someone who is your enemy. I can't imagine that kind of love. It is humbling. I guess only God could sacrifice his Son, with the full assurance that he would get him back again, with us in the bargain.
oh, how i love this... what a beautiful reminder dear michelle. (ps. i felt the father's love through you when you sent me "wild comfort"... and i forgot to tell you how much i adored every single word in that book. thank you.)
It's nice to know I'm not the only one that struggles with God's love. I know God loves me, but until now, I didn't really know that I didn't have to earn it. And that it was available to me all the time, not just when I'm doing "good."
Nice to know that I have a fellow sojourner in this God's love thing!
"Still, there’s no escaping God’s individual, personal, just-for-me kind of love, is there?"...oh how I love this!
Since I threw myself at His feet many years ago, I've identified with the woman in Luke 7:47, whose sins are many, is forgiven much and loves much...where else could I go?
I love the 'dearly' being given as a special gift to you...really, that's how I see it...as always, I love your honesty with your journey and yes, we ALL walk it whether our earthly father is such a wonderful image of Abba Love (as mine was) or something far different...it's loss, the curse of Eden and it's restoration, the hope of redemption:)
So lovely, Michelle - so real. Many of us had a growing-up picture of a distant God whom we were obligated to respect and admire, and who somehow was aloof from all things human. But something about the incarnation makes God so much more approachable, don't you think? Jesus becomes the very human face of a loving God.
And the New Living (which I love) also uses "dearly" in that verse - so you can add one more to your list.
Thanks for these words tonight.
I think what has helped me accept and understand God's unconditional love has been my own earthly father. He loves me as close as God as any earthly person can. I am so greatful for that example.
dearly. of course i've read the verse and not concentrated on that word. going back....
The first time I heard a woman in a Bible study say how much she loved God, I was floored. I've spent so much time in the fear/respect/theological knowledge about-God arena, that it's hard to grasp God's deep love for me. So thankful that He loves so relentlessly.
Oh, I love this Michelle. . .just that one little word that makes it so personal. . .so very personal!
I am so glad that God is personal. . .good luck wrapping your heart around what your mind discovered in that little word!
I promise one of these weeks I will link up. . .
I love the word "dearly" and I love that verse, Michelle.
Even though I grew up with a different perspective of God than you did, my relationship with Him has changed with time, too. As it should be, I think. We learn, we grow -- I love that about life.
Michelle,
I'm gone for a bit and I miss everything good. . .your shop notting tips, the Thin Place story, and now this post!
Thanks for the time and quality you put into each of your posts. Every time I come here I know I'll be clicking away with something to think about.
Michelle, I know the type of relationship you are speaking of. I have to admit that I still have a little of that relationship with God - the one of awe and wonder. I'm working on it. I' working on embracing a true relationship with Him. By allowing myself to be free in in Him.
What a beautiful post, Michelle. I know it's crazy, but growing up the only thing I seemed to understand about God was that He loved me. Grace made no sense, however, and I had no confidence that I would end up in heaven with Him some day if I didn't confess my sins immediately and often.
With that being said, I didn't really understand what true love looks like. Now that I have a husband and especially kids, I'm beginning to grasp just how amazing God's love is for each of us.
I know and experience God's love mostly because I am surrounded by loving family and brothers and sisters in community. But now and then God reminds me of His love by "showing up"- answering prayers, prophecies, "coincidences" that aren't, etc.
Thanks for hosting! I really hope it was ok to link up twice like I did, as it turned out I had more thoughts from our worship that I wanted to share.
Hope you have a blessed day,
Stefanie
God's love is so amazing! My head knows it is true and that it's for me, but often times my heart forgets that I don't have to earn it.
I was 9 or so when God approached me..due to my life circumstances I talked back to Him.
Since that time I've always known His precense..that He could see me. I too-felt like you when I was an adult..not that He was distant but authoritative etc..as I've grown away from Him at times in my life and come back due to His wooing me..I'm open to learn about a much deeper intimate relationship with Him...I have been learning much like you..His deep love for me in spite of what I've done and will do. That He is NOT like our human parents and that studying the Bible for myself..all of the Bible together has helped me grow in my relationship. LOVED your sharing I think many will relate:)
Another great message - I once struggled with how to approach God too but I now come to him wide open baring all. He knows me inside and out, why hide my inner most thoughts.
Thankyou for your comment. I am linking that post. I thought I had done it but see I had not. I think reevaluating our use of time is always necessary! At least for me.
So glad you are on that journey, Michelle . . . a journey of a life time, if you ask me. I pray that God's lavish love for you surprises you in fun ways this week.
Fondly,
Glenda
PS. Congrats on your growing link party. I have trouble blogging on Mondays and Tuesdays . . . but hope to jump in a few more times this summer.
Fondly,
Glenda
So glad you are on that journey, Michelle . . . a journey of a life time, if you ask me. I pray that God's lavish love for you surprises you in fun ways this week.
Fondly,
Glenda
I know and experience God's love mostly because I am surrounded by loving family and brothers and sisters in community. But now and then God reminds me of His love by "showing up"- answering prayers, prophecies, "coincidences" that aren't, etc.
Michelle, I know the type of relationship you are speaking of. I have to admit that I still have a little of that relationship with God - the one of awe and wonder. I'm working on it. I' working on embracing a true relationship with Him. By allowing myself to be free in in Him.